california dreamin’
we got legally married in massachusetts in august 2005, a few weeks before our big (illegal!) ceremony. it was tiny and fun and we loved our justice of the peace. but it didn’t feel like our real wedding. i almost didn’t believe we were married afterwards. i’ve gotten used to valuing our marriage in our own hearts and with the love and support of family and friends — but i think i’ve learned to try to make that enough. the idea of having the support of a greater community - society at large, even strangers - is amazing to me. on an intellectual level, it’s amazing that anyone cares enough to stop me and d from getting married. but in my heart, it’s incredible to imagine - strangers - supporting our relationship.
it’s wonderful, but it’s almost scary. many of us have built our relationship in a little cocoon, and when i allow myself to “go there,” it’s like a whole wide world blowing open.
